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Where to Start With Processing
Where to Start With Processing
Since we're getting back to feelings and wanting to release or integrate them, likely the best 3 places to start would be:
(1) ACTIVE FEELING: This contains a fair amount of information on feelings and making full contact with them. Toward the bottom of the information are the "Steps to Active Feeling". This is the actual Active Feelings process. It's a good start for contacting and intergrating feelings and emotions.
(2) EMO-INTEGRATOR: Here's some info on what amounts to our own natural way of feeling and letting things go. Also the steps to the Emo-Integrator are here. Our natural process is unparalleled in allowing us to fully feel and integrate those biological messages. Gain a felt understanding of each of the steps. The basic intention of allowing feelings to be there with no intention of getting rid of them or grasping them allows us to take a noninterfering stance with our feelings. It's probably better to regard our biological messages as friends to be embraced rather than as unwanted buggers or downright enemies. Feelings really do a hell lot of valuable tasks for us. They get a bad rap because our unconscious projector beams a lot of "aversive" meanings on them. Bottom line is that they are energy. It's our evaluations and meanings that give them a negative sense and help to keep them at arm's length.
(3) A FEELING PRIMER: Originally appearing on the NAP Forum, you can find "A Feeling Primer" in one of those grids in the "basics section" on Sergey's English Emoclear Page. This can give you a brief Cliff's notes on feelings.
Now I noticed you stated: "I am again TRYING reconnect with my feelings and releasing." Now I don't know if this is true for you, but often when people "try" they see what they are attempting to do as mission impossible. "Trying" often spells a lack of committment to the undertaking. It may mean we will try up until the time it "get's too much". Check out what the word "trying" means for you. Feeling feelings means we make a committed effort. I haven't met anyone, who stays the course and doesn't fall prey to impatience, who has not felt and integrated their feelings. The fact is we all have already felt and released unconsciously or we would be unfunctioning basket cases.
Just remember: (1) Sit down and do it. (2) Allow those feelings to be there and don't force it. (3) All sensations count--even a socalled lack of them like no feeling, numbness etc.
You'll be rewarded. Some unnaturalness may happen at first, but that passes.
Feeling our feelings may be among the most important activities we ever do. Our health and mental health find their axis in our ability to feel and integrate.
Take care, Steve