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I Stood It Exercise
View the Low Frustration Tolerance Mini Learn-In
***Warning: Do not do this exercise if you have a history of mental illness, severe trauma, or panic without a therapist. If you decide to do this process you can only do it if you agree to absolve the webmasters, Emoclear.com, the servers, and Steve Mensing of any responsibility for the application or misapplication of this process. With any emotional process there is always the possibility of experiencing discomfort so proceed with this warning.***Low Frustration Tolerance can be handled a number of ways:
* Feel the LFT fully and get up and do what you better do no matter how you feel at first. This alters the feeling state fairly quickly. Low Frustration tolerance depends on the belief that we can't stand something or it's too much. The belief gets disproved when we clearly demonstrate to ourselves that we can stand something, that it's not too much. LFT is a trance that can't survive in activity. The more you get up and do what you supposedly can't stand, the more LFT loses its power. Action blows it out. Inaction keeps it alive.
*LFT can also be a target for clearing. However accept that you have it and it serves a useful function on some level. LFT is often present with compulsions, addictions, panic, and pain syndromes.
* Besides direct action, knowing that you can stand anything can help. You might ask yourself can I stand your LFT plagued activity for: (1) A huge cash reward? (2) A valuable chunk of your life is returned to you? (3) Or any other valuable reward you can see. (your life is spared) If you can stand it for any of these rewards then you can assume you can stand it or it's not too much.
Here is the "I stood it exercise":
I STOOD IT EXERCISE
Find an important situation you deem "too much" or "can't be stood" and simply carry that activity through to its conclusion. With this exercise you will prove to yourself that you "stood it". Feel your I can't stand it feelings fully and then swing all your attention over to your chosen activity. Here are the steps:
(1) Name the activity you believed "too much" or "couldn't stand": _____________________.
(2)Set a specific length of time for standing it (some may want to stand the activity from start to finish). The length of time is: ____________________.
(3) Recognize your long-term rewards for "standing it". My long-term rewards for staying in there will be: _______________________. (Better quality of life--more self control--etc).
(4) Recognize that you can stand it for a large sum of money, your life being spared, or whatever you highly value. If you recognize this, you know then that you can stand it.
(5) Do the activity named in step (1) from start to finish.
(6) Recognize that you stood it--that it wasn't too much. Know that you regained control over an area of your life. Notice the good feelings you obtained by doing this activity from start to finish.
Take care, Steve