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Couples Word/Phrase Intimacy Test
COUPLES WORD/PHRASE INTIMACY TEST.
(c) Steve Mensing
Technique for discovering how you
feel about getting involved in an intimate relationship. Circle the words closest to how you feel
about being intimate and loving with another person.
Reviewing your answers will give you an overall sense
of how you feel about getting close and forming intimate
relationships. Do you prefer a warm and loving relationship or do you find relationships uninviting or scarey. Choose the word/phrase closest to how you feel at this moment. If you find relationships uninviting (More than 14 negative word circles) you might wish to explore any pain you associate with your birthright of love and closeness. This pain can be grist for integration and exposure.
First words are positive and second words are negative.
(1) Free or engulfing.
(2) Secure or shakey
(3) Fun or frightening.
(4) Effortless or hard.
(5) Trusting or distrusting.
(6) Pleasant or unpleasant.
(7) Plenty or never enough.
(8) Fullfilling or draining.
(9) Connected or disconnected.
(10) Going to last or not going to last.
(11) Enjoyable or depressing.
(12) Calm or anxious.
(13) Home like or alien.
(14) Fresh air or suffocating.
(15) Warm or chilly.
(16) Aware or closed off.
(17) Passionate or remote.
(18) Connected & separate or connected & dependent.
(19) Gaining or surrendering.
(20) Enriching or draining.
(21) Open or closed.
(22) Inviting or uninviting.
(23) In control or out of control.
(24) Assertive or unassertive.
(25) Hot or cold.
(26) Attractive or repulsive.
(27) Harmonious or contentious.
(28) Inspiring or uninspiring.
Have fun, Steve