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Envy
Envy is when we compare ourselves to other folks or compare our accomplishments to other folks' accomplishments. Envy is fueled by a negative self-view where we down ourselves. We see someone accomplishing something before we make a comparison and tell ourselves we should do as well or better. Because we don't, we knock ourselves with a bad name.
If we really accept ourselves, we don't spend much time comparing ourselves with other people. This comparison can lead to disliking others or to self-hate. When we envy, we often wish others hard times and knock how they achieved their success. Here the underlying belief holds that others' success takes away from our own.
In handling envy it might be a good idea to check out your underlying beliefs and feelings.
What do you think about others and their accomplishments?
How are you making a comparison?
What rule do you hold for yourself about what you should have or do?
What negative self-label do you pin on yourself?
It might be a good idea to check out what you do have--not what you lack.
Envy at times is linked with coveting someone's else's possessions or someone else's glory. Acknowledge how this might be an error and be prepared to exchange covetous beliefs for more helpful beliefs. Recognize the many good things you already have. Let contentment come. Focus on the good and the beneficial and see how you might be charitable with others.
Often the good life has little to do with what we possess materially. The good life may have more to do with how we perceive ourselves, others, and the world. We create our feelings of beauty, goodness, and plenty with our thoughts and images.
Why have a self-made law that says we must accomplish more or have more in order to accept ourselves and treat ourselves in a loving and caring manner? Be willing to dump that law for preferences or wants. Suffering is created by inhumane laws we punish ourselves with. We can accept ourselves and treat ourselves in a loving and caring manner at any moment. We hold the steering wheel here.
To clear envy, we should first root out our beliefs that are creating the feelings of envy. The emotions connected to these beliefs will be good targets for clearing.
Find the laws. Find the self-downing. Find the comparison.
How might you also enjoy the success of others? How might you empathize with them?
Do others have similar hopes and aspirations as yourself? Are not these folks formed from the same creative energy?
What are your goals for accomplishing a calling?
When was the last time you recognized you were multi-faceted? That you were a mix of positive, neutral, and some negative qualities.
What excellent things have you done?
How will you go about accepting your envious feelings?
What good things have they done for you? When you notice the good things others have, how might you obtain the same things if you really want them?