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Approvalitis

Here is a Personality Cluster which may speak to both the inflation and your underlying feelings. Approvalitis: This cluster places emphisis on getting approval, attention, and recognition. Here our sense of self-acceptance and esteem seems to depend on what we believe others think. Acceptance, achievement, admiration, approval, attention, money, and status weigh in heavy here. Fear of rejection is also strong. Beliefs are:

* I must get approval and attention or I am nothing.
* People should notice me or I'm no good.
* I deserve special attention because I worked for it.
* I'm nobody if I don't have money.
* I drive myself hard to get approval.
* I can't stand not being seen as special.
* I deserve recognition.
* How dare they not notice me.
* I can't stand being devalued.
* Without attention and admiration I am nothing.
* I must appear handsome, intelligent, or beuatiful or I will be rejected.
* They must know about how wonderfu I am or I will be devistated.
* They should pay attention to me alone or I'll become furious.
* They paid more attention to someone else--the bastards.